Monday, August 25, 2014

Welcomed: A Starting Place for Ministry to and with People with Special Needs


"We love the church and genuinely want to serve and be a part of it... We need the church. We need the body of Christ. We need our children to have a place at the table."

These words come from the mother of a boy who has a fairly severe sensory disorder, which makes it, literally, a painful experience to go to church.  Judging by the response her post received, it is clear that they reflect the feelings of many, many others. 

One of the first, and most important things we can do is to let these people and their families know that they are known, welcome in the Church, and that they are not alone.  Just to have the desire to include and serve these families and their loved ones is a message of hope.  These people and their families are called no less to be fully part of the Church and to participate actively in her work.  Once begun, it soon becomes clear that far from being simply an object of service and charity, there is a person who has an immense wealth to share and teach.
“… the bearer of a handicap is not simply an object of the Church’s love and service, but active and responsible participants in the work of evangelization and salvation.”
Christifideles Laici 54
I am a firm believer that pictures speak 1000 words, and our most recent Popes have witnessed beautifully to this welcome and gift:  

“You are not alone, separated, abandoned or useless. You have been called by Christ and are his living and transparent image”  - World Day for the Sick 2013
 


“spread a culture of encounter, solidarity and hospitality towards persons with disabilities, not just asking for the proper social services but also encouraging their active participation in society.”
- Wednesday Audience June 11, 2013


 
"In the light of Christ's death and resurrection illness no longer appears as an exclusively negative event; rather, it is seen as a "visit by God", an opportunity "to release love, in order to give birth to works of love towards neighbour, in order to transform the whole of human civilization into a civilization of love"                                                               (Apostolic Letter Salvifici doloris, n. 30).

 
 
Pope St. John Paul II was a witness to his own words, being present and visible in his struggles, work and prayer, forgiving his attacker while in recovery from an assassination attempt and finally as his own body was giving way to illness.

Monday, August 18, 2014

Embracing the child within: openness and freedom

Some of the most 'open' people you'll ever meet are children and people with special needs.  There is a sense of transparency and willingness to experience and do and learn that most of us lose, at least to some extent. Why is that? 


Part of the reason is that most of us build up defenses of cynicism and antagonism, to protect those parts of us which we feel to be vulnerable.  For some, unfortunately, this comes from experience.  For others it even might come from education, among other things.

What do we have to fear that we are building defenses against?  The first thing that comes to mind is being hurt.  If you open yourself to someone, there always seems to be the possibility that trust could be betrayed.  Unfortunately that can and has happened all too often.  On a deeper level, if we are open, vulnerable in that way, it means we also have to be open to change- change in our perspective, our thoughts and words and actions- the very way we live.  The word here might be "conversion" or metanoia, which simply means turning (usually from something) toward God.  In relation to God, and opening ourselves to Jesus, maybe we are also as Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI suggests, "afraid He might take something away from us..." (cf. Weddell 157).  This is scary, it is dangerous and feels out of our control.

Yet, there is an amazing freedom in the lack of inhibition you will find so often in children and many people with special needs.  At our dinner dance, all we have to do is turn on the music and there is a full dance floor.  There are the ones who will wear just what they want- and they rock it!You may hear some uncomfortable- and sometimes funny truths and questions, and you WILL know what they are feeling (even if the 'why' takes a little bit of digging to uncover).
 


When you are dependent on others, you are vulnerable in a way many of us don't experience until we are older.  This takes trust.  When a person LIVES in vulnerability that way, I have also noticed a tendency to be more open, understanding and compassionate to others.  When you live your life (at times very acutely) aware of your own weaknesses, that awareness can translate into a quicker understanding of those of others.

I imagine this is at least part of the "child-like" spirit we are meant to embrace.  Sherry Weddell presents some great ways for us all to help foster openness (cf. p. 163):
-  practice non-judgmental truthfulness
-  ask thought-provoking questions
-  help connect the dots:
   in the person's own words as much as possible, help them see God's work in their lives
- ask God for help, or even a sign
- pray for openness
- pray, acknowledging openness